Enough people have been asking me lately, what happened to my blog, where have I been? So, I reckon I best get back to writing. You see, I had “ragequit” Facebook last month and stopped writing altogether. I had gotten “too Face’d.”
Social media had recently got me to my breaking point. The misinformation, fake news, and over-opinionated posts and rants had become too much. In addition to that, two people removed me over some perceived slight. I think people have forgotten how to speak directly to one another. Communication through texts, posts, and third parties are not the best way to resolve misconceptions.
Social media can be so deceptive.
It has been hard to stay away from Facebook. Last time I quit, the election year, I think I lasted 40 days.
This time around, I kept getting several notifications so I’d at least peek at those, and that was it, but finally figured out how to stop them. I needed the break. I still don’t think I’m ready to come back, but I have my youngest son’s senior pictures to share soon, and my husband’s 50th birthday coming up. To be honest, I LIKE to share what’s going on, and I LOVE to see what my family and friends are up to. I have so many relatives out-of-state, that there is no better way to keep in touch. How to make Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc… less toxic environments though?
Politics are the most troubling thing for me to deal with. Do you think Facebook would be a better place if there were a “Hide Politics” button?
I have about 5 or 6 friends on both sides, who post regularly about politics. I don’t begrudge them that, it’s their right. I know I can “unfollow” them, so I don’t have to see their posts – yet still remain friends. But then I miss out on the things that I want to see. Like their kids, cats, trips, new jobs, reposts of funny dog videos and recipes… Feel good stuff.
I’m not sure what people get out of posting things that the other half of the population won’t agree with. It’s not going to change anyone’s mind. I have tried engaging in “conversations” in a respectful manner but is it any surprise how those turned out?
I had some good discussions with my youngest son regarding his views. He had quit ALL social media for 7-8 months which is amazing for a 17-year-old. He deleted all the apps from his phone and directed his focus elsewhere. Like me, he would feel down and depressed because of people posting their insecurities and other depressing posts about how “bad” their life is.
I see this kind of behavior primarily amongst my younger friends. They don’t realize there is a fake world (Social media) and there is a real world and that yes, the real world hurts sometimes. But, sometimes it’s wonderful.
There is too much comparing going on, and there is an outcry of pain when people feel they don’t measure up to the next duck-faced selfie. Their value is based on “Likes and followers.” I want to hug them and tell them to forget the “likes” and seek out the positive stuff and get rid of all those negative re-posts!
Have you ever been in a good mood and then a sad song comes on or one that triggers a memory and then your mood turns glum? That is where I’m at with the social media thing. Of course, the same can happen in reverse, there’s nothing like being in a bummed mood and seeing a funny video to cheer you up. The real world is full of good and bad, is it any surprise the internet is the same, too?
I’m not quite ready to come back to Facebook, just a quick share of my blog, a short peek and I’m out. But I would like to know, how do many of you go about making it a positive place?
And to all my younger friends out there, this advice: Sometimes you need to turn off the apps and believe in your self-worth, without the use of an audience. You really do matter, without needing anyone else’s opinion.